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||Saturday, February 12, 2011
@ 5:35 AM
|I have a deep sinking feeling ...
I've only come across your web sight within the last week, I
work but it gives me a deep sinking feeling of both hope &
fear. I feel like
running except my hiding place has been getting too small.
my voice has been getting bigger,stronger & a bit older. I'm
generations into the JW's which if you were to ask those
still remaining JW
they'd say it was an Honor. There isn't anything honorable
threatening those of us abused & forced to keep silent. they
hard to make us afraid, to fear them ... Its terrifying! I
have fought till I
couldn't fight them anymore! I went to Bethel & was told
that I hadn't the
(2 witnesses) present for this abuse . I had 4 other victims
who refused to
come forward when called so they said they had no choice but
his side since he's been (to them) such a fine friend,
brother, elder &
pioneer . He stated I had been a over sexed child he
couldn't control, that
I attacked him on a regular basis. He said if he was guilty
for anything it
would be not telling me no. In that moment I had nothing
else to fight with.
Every time I try I'm told to honor him, to forgive whatever
I think he's
done, besides he's old now who is he going to hurt, When I
told my mom
she put her hand on my knee & said "I know". 'He did some
stuff to me &
my sisters but you leave it to Jehovah, he knows His heart
or he wouldn't
still be an elder.' I can't share the entire story in a
paragraph but I can say
thank you, you've helped so many.
||Wednesday, February 9, 2011
@ 5:16 PM
Are you serious?! What bizarre treatment and teachings!!!
I am so sorry to any of you who were treated this way!!
It's truly, truly bizarre and sick! How can anyone not see
that all these children were victims of abuse?! Weird, weird,
||Friday, February 4, 2011
@ 7:56 PM
I was forced into this cult as young as I remember in the
early 70s and was beaten many times-they promoted it. "Spare
the rod spoil the child" They even
questioned us at the meetings asking "You don't mind being
beaten do you?" and one of my friends said "No I don't mind"
and got applauded for it. I looked down for somewhere to
hide. At a bible study I remember every child going over
the hostess' lap for a spanking as if to prove a point of
allegiance to the other parents. "You will thank me for it
when you're older" they used to say. Well here's my
reply: "Get stuffed Satan".
||Wednesday, February 2, 2011
@ 3:58 PM
Obey? Without question?! That's enough to scare
anyone away from a
religion! No freedom of speech even? Stay away. Stay away
from any religion or
organization that attempts to put limits like this on
people! I am so glad you are
refusing to be involved anymore in any way with this group.
Nobody has the
right to tell someone they must do as they are told - -
questioning the 'orders'. Wow. I'm so glad you came to your
decision and acted
||Tuesday, February 1, 2011
@ 3:33 PM
Thanks for looking out for the kids. Growing up as a JW I
know of a lot of molest victims. I even knew the sick
bastard Rick McLean that is on the FBI's most wanted list. Had
no idea who he was back then. Thank God! A co-worker
of mine recently passed away from a prescription drug overdose.
He was a very nice gay man that had been raised a witness
and had been molested by one of the "anointed" for years as
a kid. We spread his ashes at sea off the canoe(tradition
here in Hawaii). His brother told my wife's friend that he
died because he stopped going to meetings. She naively
thought he meant AA meetings. Many thanks for all you are
accomplishing with this website!!!
||Monday, January 31, 2011
@ 8:41 PM
|Enjoy your site
Connect this site up with facebook please. Thanks!
Here you go:
||Monday, January 31, 2011
@ 12:40 PM
|May God Bless You All
I stumbled on this site by accident and the love that is
expressed here I will continue to come back from time to
time.I have been studying with the witness off and on for
the past 30 years, never could bring myself to take the
plunge. I was never well liked, I have always been a rebel
and you were not going to tell me what is-and not be able to
back it up. I could have stayed with the Catholics for that
matter with all the mysteries that they where throwing at
me. I was making plans to take the plunge at the upcoming
assembly on Mar 5. The sister, lovingly pointed out to me
that I had a problem accepting authority. I agreed with her.
Then like a fool she said,"If the brothers tell you do
something you do it without question." "We all must OBEY the
brothers". She left but it was something about that word
OBEY that I could not stomach. Here I am 54 years old and I
have to obey. I went to take nap. When I woke up it all came
back to me. "Crisis of Conscience" by Ray Franz, all the
research I had done on the Watchtower Society 11 years
before. The first word came to mind was CULT. Called my
study teacher and informed her I would not be back. Wrote a
letter to the local congregation that I was resigning from
the school, and to be put on THE DO NOT CALL LIST. It has
been 3 weeks but I have not looked back, I can not in good
conscience lure anyone into this destructive cult. For those
who are wondering how I forgot all this in the first place,
11 years ago I had to undergo open heart surgery. I was on
life support for 3 hours but I found that a lot of things I
had to relearn and a lot of things I just could not
remember. Sooo I thank you all for lifting my spirits. Much
||Thursday, January 27, 2011
@ 9:34 AM
|Worlds Apart-the film
There is another movie out. A friend saw on the Sundance
channel. It is filmed in Denmark and about a young JW
girl in a romantic relationship, it goes into how she was
alienated by her family, and a lot about JWs that we all
know too well.
It's out there and easily found. I suggest everyone see
||Monday, January 24, 2011
@ 4:19 PM
|Great Film About Cults @ Sundance.
I don't know if any of you have heard the news from
Sundance Film Festival, but here's the heads up for any
that are interested:
There's a film called "Martha Marcy May Marlene" that's
getting great buzz. It is about a young woman who is
trying to reintegrate back into normal society after
leaving an abusive cult. I am hoping to see it at a later
Can't go into much detail, but I am writing a film script
about child sex abuse & religion. If anything happens
w/it, I will try & keep you all posted.
||Friday, January 21, 2011
@ 1:07 PM
|response to my comment
Thank you so much for your concern. We have communicated
honestly and have honestly concluded that our future does
not include one another. I am waiting for reassurance
that my ailing dog is indeed better. He has congestive
heart failure and has had several scary episodes. He's doing
better, thank God. I am going to a Presbyterian church
this weekend to meet people, and, hopefully if things get
rough here, have a safe place to go.
||Thursday, January 20, 2011
@ 9:38 AM
I don't understand why thoughtful people like yourself
stay in this organization. You see wrongs that you cannot
There are other faiths--mainstream faiths, that are far
more enlightened, far more compassionate, far more all
aware of what Christ's call to us is.
Please enlighten me because I would love to understand the
draw of such a cult.
||Wednesday, January 19, 2011
@ 5:48 PM
|To Susan K. B.
Hi, Susan, I am glad things are not as bad as they
were, but they still don't
sound good, either. You deserve to be happy with someone,
not just to
'peacefully' coexist. That's not living. I hope that
eventually you two can talk
with each other and truly communicate honestly and
genuinely. I wish you both
the best! Take care.
||Wednesday, January 19, 2011
@ 5:38 PM
I wish someone could talk with or correspond somehow
with these two
Witnesses who told me that the policies regarding pedophilia
and wife abuse
have changed. I don't "think on my feet" well when I talk
with JWs, and I think
another person could do so much better. These JWs are
convinced that I am
reading lies on the internet and said that I am gullible.
I told them that I do
know that not everything on the internet is true, but that I
filter what I read. I
was told that you can't filter a lie with a lie. They are
convinced that I am a
gullible person, that they have the truth, the whole truth,
and nothing but the
truth, and that I am being influenced by lies. Well, I am
sure that I am not
always reading 100% of the truth on the internet. Also, I
don't like it when
articles regarding the Witnesses are just plain snide, rude,
or even mean. I
like reading mature, well thought out articles that are also
reasoned and logical. I don't know if I am perhaps a little
gullible, but I sure
can't fall for everything the JWs are taught, either. These
people I talked with
are very articulate, not to mention very nice, and really
sweet. It is difficult
not to buy into some of what they say, because they express
thoughtfully and reasonably. Help. What is really going on
in this religion
regarding pedophilia, wife abuse - - just any kind of abuse?
||Tuesday, January 18, 2011
@ 12:06 PM
The new buzz word among the Elders is Yielding. In effect
this means that if you don't agree with the two elders'
decision, then you are working against the holy spirit.
This will in turn disqualify one as an elder. This concept
can have dire consequences, especially when dealing
with two other elders who are ignorant to the law, have a
prejudice, are in a hurry, or, are just stupid!
I was on a committee recently where Yielding went terribly
wrong. A 14 year old girl was sexually attacked by a 16
year old boy with a troubled history. The girl was doing
everything right when it comes to telling the truth. She
filed a Sheriff's report of aggravated sexual battery, and
needs psychological assistance. Due to prejudice from one
elder that benefits financially from this boy's parents, he
had the strongest voice in the meetings. The other brothers
had to fall in line or have their qualifications questioned.
This creates a homogenizing effect. There is no longer an
opened minded conversation to evaluate facts and apply
[Watchtower policy] in an elders meeting. How sad!
The results in this case: the girl, (the victim) was
disfellowshipped and the boy was privately reproved. It
was appealed. However, as is the case in almost all cases,
it was upheld. After all the appeals committee has to live
with original committee, and don't want to rock the boat
and suffer payback at a later time. This case is being
reviewed by the Branch. What a shame that due to selfish
motivations this young sister suffers with her family.
Not to mention the shame on Jehovah's name. My frustration
comes from being emasculated in not having any valuable input,
due to the threat of being removed for not Yielding.
Although we as elders can't officially endorse Silentlambs,
I have privately suggested that the girl's parents
get in touch with you for further assistance. May Jehovah
bless all this matter.
||Monday, January 17, 2011
@ 11:59 AM
My situation is not as dire as it had been. We don't talk
religion or anything else. I do feel "censored" but he
probably does too. I still have my feelings about JWs, I
think they are not inclusive but exclusive. The opposite
of Christ's real truth. They are what Christ abhorred!
||Monday, January 17, 2011
@ 3:34 AM
|Thanks to SL
I would like to thank the authors of this web site for the
information they publish. Being a JW since 1994 (when I was
15) I knew of the many issues JW's have to face when dealing
with the general public (like say blood
transfusions, unchristian methods employed by many men
invested with authority, broken families etc.), however, the
sheer fact that sex crimes against minors is this widespread
problem among JWs is absolutely shocking.
||Sunday, January 16, 2011
@ 9:36 PM
|Changes? No I don't think so!
I have been told the same thing- that the organization has
made changes to encourage those to go to the police and help
victims. I don't see any changes. Both my X's still are
considered in good standing and their supporters are still
there... So I say loudly NOTHING HAS CHANGED!
||Sunday, January 16, 2011
@ 8:16 AM
I'll believe the changes when I see in writing that all
child molestation cases must be reported immediately to the
police without elders doing anything else. It must be
published and included in the elder's manual. Otherwise
it's window dressing.
||Friday, January 14, 2011
@ 5:16 PM
Recently I was told by a couple of Jehovah's Witnesses
that now the religion
realizes that pedophilia should be reported to the proper
authorities and that
changes are being made in the Jehovah's Witnesses's religion
to see that this is
done. Also, they mentioned that abuse of wives is not
being tolerated anymore,
that women are encouraged to leave their abusive husbands if
they need to. Are
these changes occurring on a widespread basis among
congregations? I hope
so! Maybe these extremely necessary changes are going on,
but they are taking
time due to the slowness of change and understanding. Could
enlighten us about this? These changes would be a Godsend!!
Of course, that
goes without saying!
||Friday, January 14, 2011
@ 4:54 PM
|To Susan K. B.
Hi, Susan, you are sure in a tough situation! Have
you looked for other
options in the California area - - places to stay and so on?
You need to get out
of your current situation. You can't live like that! You
need to find somewhere to
go, at least temporarily until a permanent solution comes
up. No, it is not a sin
for Jehovah's Witnesses to grieve. Your friend is having
some personal issues
that he needs to deal with. They are not your problem, and
I hope you recognize
that! You would do well to check in with some social
service agencies in your
area. You need to get out of your current living
conditions! There are ways for
you to do that, and I wish you success! Soon!!
||Monday, January 10, 2011
@ 9:42 AM
|REPLY TO COMMENT by Susan K.B.
Get out of the prison you are in. You are a human being and
deserves to be treated as such. God loves you, always has
and always will. This guy is so wrapped up in his own
guilt, for whatever reason that is and you are allowing him
to make you miserable, as well. The drinking is a crutch
that you cannot fix, and it's probably
something he was doing all along. In your effort to change
things for him, you are the one that has been changed. You
have become the babysitter, the cook and housekeeper. Be
watchful that you don't become his unloved and unwanted
property. You are always welcomed to visit this site, so
don't be a stranger.
||Thursday, January 6, 2011
@ 7:19 PM
I was raised as one of Jehovah's witnesses, I was also
verbally, physically, mentally abused by my mother who is a
Pioneer and still one of JW's. I was also molested by my
biological brother. My mother and the elders did nothing
about it. I wish I had stumbled on this site earlier, I am
so happy to see that there is a forum for people to talk
about and share their story, I am 40 yrs old now, the abuse
I suffered as a child has impacted my life, never married,
no children, never been in a relationship. It makes me very
happy to see someone stand up and advocate for children who
can't fight for themselves. Thank you
|Susan K. B.
||Wednesday, January 5, 2011
@ 5:07 PM
|reply to comment
Thanks for the advice. The problem is I live with this
person I have mentioned. He is disfellowshipped because
since his wife's passing he has had 2 relationships. We
are celibate but even that is not allowed. It's all about
appearances. A JW comes to the house to pick up his
stepson, another JW, and won't enter the house. Instead
she calls from her cell that she is here. That's what led
me to look into "disfellowshipping" and what led me here.
He now hates me, I'd say. We have to be together at this
point in time, I've an ailing dog who shouldn't be put on
a plane and my home is in NJ, and I am in CA. My home in
NJ is stripped of everything because it is up for sale.
SO we just do not speak. Awkward but I am getting
accustomed to it. The verbal abuse was horrid. He drinks
and when he drinks...watch out.
I only have a memory of what he was like before. He has
been too verbally abusive for me to have feelings for. He
ridiculed my religion (I'm a Presbyterian), won't let me
speak of my son who passed a bit over a year ago. Is grief
a "sin" to JWs? So I am censored and get no support with
that...it's wretched. AND now this hatred.
Silence, keeping feelings in, all make it difficult but
Thanks for your support!
||Wednesday, December 29, 2010
@ 5:40 PM
|Don't feel bad
Susan, it is very hard, very difficult, to get anything
across to most
Jehovah's Witnesses. They are so set in their belief system
that it is almost
impossible to get anything through to them. No matter what
you are trying to
tell them. Yes, it is very frustrating and exasperating,
but please don't give up
hope for JWs, don't despair of them. You never know when
going to 'hit home' and they will sit up and take notice - -
like, "Hey, wait a
minute, something is fishy with this religion!!" I have
tried with a couple of
family members to get them to understand a few things and
nowhere. If you are not careful, worrying about anything
registering with JWs
can really stress you out! Someone recently told me that it
has to come from
within the Jehovah's Witnesses themselves, the wondering,
the doubting. At
one time, years ago, I doubt that I would have let anyone
tell me something
was wrong with the Jehovah's Witnesses' religion. But,
inside of me, and I just simply was not happy in that
religion anymore. Be
careful that you don't get stressed out about the Witnesses
changing. As this
person also told me, a person could actually get physically
ill letting it get to
them. I want to see things change as much as the next
person, but, I, too,
have learned the hard way that you can't make it happen.
Something has to
snap or click, or something inside the Witnesses themselves
before they can
see that something is dreadfully wrong.
||Tuesday, December 28, 2010
@ 4:33 AM
|reading the news
I noticed that the previous commenter, stated that JWs do
not read the news.
Having been one for 30 yrs, and had the habit of reading
several newspapers a
day, in addition to reading other non JW periodicals and
also TV-news, I cannot
relate to that comment. Most of the witnesses I knew, were
just as informed as
every body else on what was going on in the world....